I recently read an article that concerned me greatly. In case you want to read it first, here's the link: A Few Words For Parents Who Home Schooled
My problem with the article is the statement that, "First, the problems you see in the life of your grown children are your fault." As I read that statement, my mind spun. The article does a fair job explaining why the author feels this way, but I believe that he is completely incorrect. Just as I can't take credit for my grown kids' successes, I cannot take the blame for their mistakes. Raising children is part of the sanctification of parents. Absolutely no parent begins the journey of parenting totally prepared. Every one of us will make mistakes along the way. As we seek to lay down our lives in our own individual, imperfect life journey, raising children is much less about raising perfect children than it is about Christ working His perfect power in our lives to shape each of us individually into the person that He wants us to become. As our children grow older, we slowly transfer the responsibility of us making their decisions on to them to make their decisions on their own. They will stumble. They will fall. God will pick them up. We are responsible to continue to pray for them and to be available for counsel if they will listen, but we are not responsible, nor are we able, to walk their own personal journey of life. If they grow up in a Christian home, they will likely make a profession of faith during their childhood. However, they will ultimately need to decide if they are going to walk that profession out as God gives them opportunity to grow in Him. As a parent, we will each stand before God and answer to Him for how we raised our kids, for whether we told them about Jesus, for whether we walked out His commandments while raising our kids, but we will not be in any way responsible for whether our children walked with God as adults or for their faults. God will be glorified in their weaknesses and in their strengths, as well as in our own. We are only individually responsible for our own walk. Let the burden of being judged on the basis of the faults of your children slide from your shoulders. And, likewise, let the pride of being praised on the basis of the strengths of your children slide away. Let it all bring glory to God.